Is it imposter syndrome or an “ism?”

The effects of racism, sexism, ageism, casteism, colonialism, colorism, individualism, and materialism are a live feel in the bodies of Women of Color.

Affecting our relationships with our

Children

Family

Friends

Partners (business and intimate)

Clients

Money

It plays out in how we get to show up at the table in business and as leaders.

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Coding our words to fit in!

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Being a chameleon.

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Hiding who you are.

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Play the game.

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The unfortunate part of the game is the defense is always on an attack which keeps us playing offense.

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The defense got us the game is rigged it’s been embedded with Microaggressions and corrupt code being programmed into the culture of both teams.

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Bypassing truth in favor of more palatable terminology. Eludes us to thinking and believing it’s just us! Or maybe we just got “imposters syndrome.

But is it?

How blessed you are to feel comfortable enough to say whatever you want when you want. Feel free to walk into the board room and not have to watch your tone.

Careful you wouldn’t want to be the #angryblackwoman

How blessed you are not to walk in Short Pump and feel the eyes watching you at the counter

Is the one that never had to have “the talk with their kids about why you can’t do what Ted does!

I spent years on a therapist’s couch trying to figure this out

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From the years of trauma in the home.

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From the microaggressions that continue every single day as soon as you walk out the door

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In corporate America, at the store, in the drive-through, in the home.

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And we wonder why we are constantly on the defensive with the majority of WOC suffering from CPTSD /PTSD.

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Generational abuse and trauma change your DNA it’s not the food it’s the environment.

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Thousands of hours in with coaches and mentors talking about imposter syndrome, father, and mother wounds doing shadow work, inner child work!

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Learning about emotional management and living as an empath, sacred rage, night of the soul, and living life as a lightworker.

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Yet what remained was a sticky feeling of less than, not belonging, and it is just not the same for me!

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Feeling I had to do more, be more, hustling, be the strong Black woman, please people, and play the game for acceptance.

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It all changed when my mentor said “girl I feel you, I’ve been there!”

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Then if it’s not just me and it’s we what has to change?

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Shining the light on those dark places. Stepping up to the line.

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No more bypassing.

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Doing the work on emotional & nervous system regulation.

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Self-care and self-love

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Honoring your feelings and emotions.

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Creating a game plan (mindset, resiliency, coping, self-coaching tools)

We may never see a change in the culture in our lifetime but we damn sure can learn how to respond, create more freedom, and flow.

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Part 1

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